Ngaphambi kokuba ube nethuba lokuhlangana namathemba, ufuna ukuqonda inqubo yabo yokuthatha izinqumo.Abacwaningi bathole ukuthi badlula ezigabeni ezine ezihlukene, futhi uma ungahlala kuleyo threkhi nabo, kungenzeka uguqule amathuba okuba amakhasimende.

1. Bayazibona izidingo.Uma amathemba engaboni isidingo, awakwazi ukuthethelela izindleko noma ubunzima bokushintsha.Abathengisi bafuna ukugxila ekusizeni amathemba abone inkinga nesidingo.Imibuzo efana naleyo esesigabeni sethu esithi “Imibuzo Yamandla” ngezansi izosiza.
2. Baqala ukukhathazeka.Uma amathemba ebona inkinga, ayakhathazeka ngayo - futhi angase ahlehlise ukwenza izinqumo kanye/noma akhathazeke ngezindaba ezingenasisekelo.Yilapho ochwepheshe bezokuthengisa befuna ukugwema izinto ezimbili ngalesi sikhathi: ukwehlisa ukukhathazeka kwabo nokusebenzisa ingcindezi yokuthenga.Kunalokho, gxila ebuhleni bekhambi.
3. Bayahlola.Manje njengoba amathemba ebona isidingo futhi ekhathazekile, afuna ukubheka izinketho - okungaba umncintiswano.Kulapho ochwepheshe bezokuthengisa befuna ukuhlola kabusha indlela yokukhetha yamathemba futhi babonise ukuthi banesixazululo esivumelana nakho.
4. Banquma.Lokho akusho ukuthi ukudayiswa kuphelile.Amathemba angamakhasimende asahlulela njengamathemba.Amakhasimende ayaqhubeka nokuhlola ikhwalithi, isevisi, kanye nenani, ngakho ochwepheshe bezokuthengisa badinga ukuqapha injabulo yamathemba ngisho nangemva kokuthengisa.

Ukwenqatshwa kuyiqiniso elinzima lokuhlola.Akukho ukukugwema.Kukhona kuphela ukuyinciphisa.

Ukuze uyigcine okungenani:

• Ufanelekela wonke amathemba.Ukhuthaza ukwenqatshwa uma ungavumelanisi nezidingo ezingase zibe khona kanye nezinto azifunayo kanye nezinzuzo namanani alokho ongakunikeza.
• Lungiselela.Ungabambisi ucingo.Njalo.Bonisa amathuba okuba nentshisekelo kuwo ngokuqonda ibhizinisi labo, izidingo, kanye nezinselele.
• Hlola isikhathi sakho.Hlola ukushaya kwenhliziyo kwenhlangano ngaphambi kokuthi uqale ukuhlola.Ingabe ikhona inkinga eyaziwayo?Ingabe isikhathi sabo esimatasa kakhulu sonyaka?Ungacindezeli uye phambili uma usesimweni esingesihle sokungena.
• Yazi izinkinga.Unganikezi isixazululo uze ubuze imibuzo eyanele ukuze uqonde izindaba.Uma uphakamisa izixazululo zezinkinga ezingekho, umiselwe ukwenqatshwa ngokushesha.

Insiza: Ithathwe ku-inthanethi