Ungalindela kanjani ukufinyelela ku-“yebo” ezingxoxweni uma ungakafinyeleli ku-“yebo” nawe ngaphambi kwezingxoxo?Ukuthi “yebo” kuwena ngozwelo kufanele kuze ngaphambi kokuxoxisana namakhasimende.
Nawa amathiphu ayisithupha azokusiza ukuthi izingxoxo zakho ziqale kahle:
- Zibeke ezicathulweni zakho.Ngaphambi kokuthi uxoxisane nanoma ubani omunye, thola ukuthi yiniwenaisidingo - izidingo zakho ezijulile kanye namagugu.Ukuzazi kungase kukusize uhlale ugxile ezinkethweni ezisebenzela wonke umuntu.Uma wazi okwengeziwe ngezintshisekelo zakho, ungaqhamuka nezinketho zokudala ezihlangabezana nezidingo zawo wonke umuntu.
- Yakha "Indlela Engcono Kakhulu Yesivumelwano Okuxoxiswe Ngayo" (noma i-BATNA) yangaphakathi.Awukwazi ukulawula njalo ukuthi kwenzekani kuwe, kodwa unganquma ukuthi usabele kanjani.Isithiyo esikhulu sokuthola lokho esikufuna ngempela ekuphileni akulona elinye iqembu.Isithiyo esikhulu ngokwethu.Singena ngendlela yethu.Thatha umbono osekude ukuze ukusize wenze isinqumo ngokuthula nangokucacile.Ungaphenduli ngokuxhamazela.Uma uzizwa ungokomzwelo ngaphambi, phakathi nangemuva kwanoma yikuphi ukuphika okuyinkinga, thatha isikhashana ubuke isimo ukude.
- Hlela kabusha isithombe sakho.Labo ababheka izwe “njengelinenzondo ngokuyisisekelo” bayophatha abanye njengezitha.Labo abakholelwa ukuthi umhlaba unobungane kungenzeka kakhulu kwabanye njengabalingani abangaba abalingani.Uma uxoxisana, ungakhetha ukubona indawo yokuxazulula inkinga ngokubambisana nelinye iqembu, noma ungakhetha ukubona impi yokunqoba noma yokulahlekelwa.Khetha ukwenza ukusebenzisana kwakho kube kuhle.Ukusola abanye kunikeza amandla futhi kwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukufinyelela esiphethweni sokuwina.Thola izindlela zokusebenzisana namanye amaqembu.
- Hlala endaweni.Ukugxila kokwamanje kudinga ukudedela okwedlule, okuhlanganisa nezigigaba ezingezinhle.Yeka ukuzikhathaza ngokwedlule.Intukuthelo isusa ukugxila kwakho kulokho okubaluleke ngempela.Isikhathi esedlule sidlule.Ukuqhubekela phambili kuzuzisa wonke umuntu.
- Bonisa inhlonipho noma uphethwe ngayo.Uma isitha sakho sisebenzisa amazwi ahlabayo, zama ukuhlala upholile futhi unesizotha, ubekezele futhi uphikelele.Cabangela isimo bese ubona ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela nokuthi ungazibamba kanjani ukuze wanelise izidingo zakho.
- Bheka inzuzo efanayo.Uma wena nabalingani bakho bokuxoxisana nifuna izimo zokuthi “win-win”, niyasuka “ekuthatheni uye ekupheni.”Ukuthatha kusho ukugxila kuphela ezidingweni zakho.Uma upha, udala inani labanye.Ukupha akusho ukulahlekelwa.
Kuthathwe ku-inthanethi
Isikhathi sokuthumela: Oct-20-2021
