Abanye abathengisi bafuna ukuphuma ngemva nje kokuthi amathemba athi "cha" emzamweni wokuvala wokuqala.Abanye bathatha impendulo engeyinhle mathupha futhi baphushele ukuyihlehlisa.Ngamanye amazwi, bashintsha ekubeni abathengisi abawusizo baye kwabamelene nabo abazimisele, okuphakamisa izinga lokumelana lamathemba.

Nawa amathiphu ayisikhombisa angakusiza ukuthi ubuyisele ukuthengisa endleleni efanele:

1. Lalelisisaukuthola yonke imibuzo nezinkathazo ezivimba amathemba ukuthi athi “yebo.”Bayilalele intshumayelo yakho, futhi manje benza isethulo esincane bephendula.Banike ithuba lokuziveza.Bangase bazizwe bengcono ngokuveza imicabango yabo obala - ikakhulukazi uma bekholelwa ukuthi ulalele.Uzofunda kabanzi mayelana nokuthi yini ebavimbayo ekuthatheni isinyathelo ngokushesha.
2. Phinda uphendule imibuzo yabo nezinto ezibakhathazayongaphambi kokuphendula.Amathemba awasho njalo ukuthi asho ukuthini.Ukuphindaphinda kubavumela ukuthi bezwe amazwi abo.Kwezinye izimo, lapho amathemba ezwa ukuthi yini ebabambezelayo, angase aphendule ezabo izinkathazo.
3. Thola isivumelwano.Uma uvumelana nethemba esicini esithile sokuphikisa kwakhe, udala isimo lapho ungase uveze khona izindawo ezibambe ukudayiswa.Sonke isihloko oxoxa ngaso kule ngxenye yenqubo yokuthengisa singase siholele ithemba ku-"yebo."
4. Qinisekisa ukuthi amathemba akushilo konke okubakhathazayo.Kungumsebenzi wakho ukunxenxa abanethemba lokuthi bathathe isinyathelo ngokushesha.Ngakho qoqa konke ukukhathazeka ongakwenza ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukunikeza izimpendulo.Lokhu akukona ukuphenywa.Ungumxhumanisi womhlomulo futhi ufuna ukumsiza afinyelele esinqumweni esinolwazi.
5. Cela umcabango ukuthi athathe isinyathelo ngokushesha.Amanye amathemba enza izinqumo ngokushesha nangokuzola.Abanye balwa nenqubo.Noma nini lapho uqeda ukuphendula imibuzo nokukukhathazayo, hlala uphethe ngokucela umcabango ukuthi athathe isinyathelo ngokushesha.
6. Lungiselela ukunikeza isikhuthazo esengeziwe.Wenzani uma usuyiphendulile yonke imibuzo nezinkathazo, ucele umuntu ozothatha isinqumo, bese ethula?Uma umcabango engavumelani nesixazululo owethulayo noma ephakamisa okunye ukukhathazeka, silungise. 
7. Vala ukuthengisa namuhla.Hhayi ngesonto elizayo noma ngenyanga ezayo.Yini okufanele uyenze ukuze uvale ukuthengisa namuhla?Unikele ngesikhathi namandla akho ukuze uhlangabezane naleli themba.Ubuze yonke imibuzo futhi wethula zonke izitatimende ezidingekayo ukuze umuntu athathe isinqumo esifundisiwe.Yenza umzamo ofanayo wokwenza izitatimende/imibuzo yakho yokuvala njengoba wenze ekulungiseleleni sonke isethulo sakho, futhi uzozwa u-“yebo” kaningi.

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