Okwakukade kuyisinyathelo sokugcina sabathengisi abadonsa kanzima kwenzeka kaningi ezimakethe zanamuhla ezincintisanayo: abaqhudelana nabo bahlanekezela ngokungeyikho amakhono emikhiqizo yabo noma, okubi kunakho konke, ukuphawula okungamanga mayelana nemikhiqizo noma amasevisi akho.

Okufanele ngikwenze

Wenzani-ke uma umncintiswano wakho uhlanekezela iqiniso futhi ikhasimende lakho libonakala liwela enkundleni?Ukusabela okubi kakhulu ukuzibandakanya empini ye-tit-for-tat.

Lezi yizimpendulo ezinhle kakhulu:

• Lalela ngokucophelela lapho amakhasimende ekutshela ngolwazi alufunde koqhudelana naye.Gwema ukunikeza impendulo ngokushesha.Ungacabangi ukuthi ikhasimende likholelwa yonke into eshiwo yimbangi.Amanye amakhasimende kungenzeka abheke ukusabela kwakho.Abanye bangase babheke inzuzo yokuxoxisana.
• Thatha umgwaqo ophakeme.Uma ukuncintisana kwakho kufanele kuphendukele ekusonteni amagama akho nokuhlanekezela amakhono akho ukuze uthole ukunaka kwekhasimende, lokho kuwuphawu oluqinisekile lokuthi wenza okuthile ngendlela efanele.Umzuzu lapho uqala ukukhuluma kabi nomuntu oqhudelana naye umzuzu lapho uqala ukuzihlanganisa nabo kanye nokuziphatha kwabo okungenasimilo.Lalela ngokucophelela noma yiziphi izimangalo ezingamanga ezenziwe umuntu oqhudelana naye, bese uziphendula ngemininingwane, ngendlela echwepheshile phambi kwamakhasimende.
• Gxila emandleni akho.Hlala ulungele ukuphendula umbuzo othi, “Kungani kufanele sithenge kuwe ngaphezu kwawo wonke umuntu?”Uma ungaba sobala empendulweni yakho, ngeke kudingeke ukhathazeke nganoma yikuphi ukuhleba okuvela ezimbangini ezingenasimilo.Uma amakhasimende akho ewaqonda amandla akho ahlukile namakhono, ngokuvamile ngeke athonywe yinoma yibaphi abantu oqhudelana nabo.
• Shintsha ingxoxo ibe umuzwa ikhasimende elibe nawo nawe.Mkhuthaze ukuthi abhekisise irekhodi osuvele ulisungulile.Uma ukhuluma nomuntu ozothile, batshele mayelana nempumelelo yakho ngokubambisana namanye amakhasimende ngempumelelo nokusebenzisa izixazululo.Zama ukusho izibonelo zezithiyo eziyinhloko amathemba ahluleka ukuzicabangela owakwazi ukuzixazulula.
• Ungalahli ithemba, ngisho noma ulahlekelwa ikhasimende.Kwesinye isikhathi wenza izinto ngendlela efanele futhi ikhasimende lisahamba nembangi.Ungazizwa ulahlekelwe nguye unomphela, ikakhulukazi uma ikhasimende lihamba ngoba oqhudelana naye ubengenalo iqiniso ngokuphelele.Amakhasimende azobona ukuthi enze iphutha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.Ungazenzi zizizwe kufanele zibuye nomsila phakathi kwemilenze yazo.Qhubeka uhlale uxhumene, futhi uzokwenza ushintsho lube lula kakhulu.

Insiza: Ithathwe ku-inthanethi